Even Nice Guys Can Be Jerks

Sunnyskies92 learned the hard way that guys aren't always what they seem. Read on for her guide to recognizing a player!—Sparkitors

Let’s back track a few posts to Chase. Sweet, kind, funny, shy Chase, who liked me but was too afraid of moving further. Adorable, fuzzy-haired Chase that I was patiently waiting for, spending my time enjoying his flirty texts and looking forward to breakfast dates. Remember this lovable character?

See, the funny thing about boys is that sometimes, they remind you of a horror movie. Some Halloween-y flick where the hero is this really attractive dude, and then halfway through the movie you find out he’s a werewolf, or Dracula, this awful monster that goes on killing sprees throughout the town.

Chase has taken off his adorable-ness mask to reveal the monster within, and in order to protect the world from future Chase-monsters, it’s important that us ladies gear up with as much knowledge as possible. Avoid these future misconceptions, my fellow heroines:

First of all, I was unaware before this "relationship" (not quite a relationship, more like half-grown flower bud that never saw the sun) that nice boys flirt with a multitude of girls, not all of whom they're interested in pursuing. I knew, of course, that gross, sweaty, cocky players did that, but I was unaware that sweet boys, who generally care about humanity, do that also.

Secondly, I was unaware that nice boys change their minds really fast about girls. I assumed that since Chase liked me in October, that he would continue to like me in November. I also assumed that when he decided that he liked me enough to tell his friends about it, that he really was planning on liking me, like, like-like—not just a small guy-crush that goes away at any sign of trouble.

Lastly, I was unaware that nice, seemingly mature boys are just as relationship-hungry as the rest of the male population. At last, I thought, I had found a guy that was stable on his own two feet, and was willing to put the time and effort into a friendship before deciding whether or not this would be a relationship that would work. It turns out that truthfully, nice guys still want to date just to date, and with rather slutty girls, at that.

The point to remember is, don’t judge a boy by his cover. The problem with the ambiguity of the human race is that boys truly can be nice, smart, and caring towards girls—and still at the same time be exactly the kind of jerk we have been trained to avoid. Don’t let your guards down ladies. And guys—buck up and show me that Chase is NOT the only brand of nice boy on the shelf.

What do you think, Manklers—was Chase ever really a nice guy, or just pretending to be? His behavior puts him pretty solidly in the ass-hat category for us. Sparklers, have you ever had a similar experience with a boy?

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