“Summer lovin’ had me a blast, summer lovin’ happened so fast.…” Ahh, Sparklers, Danny and Sandy really summed it up in Grease, didn't they? Nothing adds to the joy of vacation like summer love. But sadly, many warm weather romances don't even make it to Labor Day. Here are some handy tips for a successful summer fling (and its aftermath):
Stay in the now
It’s summer. Three sunny months. There’s no need to pull out the calendar and plan flights to see each other over Easter 2011. Nothing derails summer love faster than getting caught up in what might be. If you find yourself at the drive-in daydreaming of baby names for your future triplets, you might just want to take a big gulp of your soda before you blurt out "Sophia, Sebastian, and Stella!" and your date bolts from the theater.
Mind the TMI rule
In the movies, lovebirds sit up all night telling each other their innermost thoughts and feelings. In real life, it’s best to reveal yourself with more caution. Remember, love is like a sour candy: powerful and always strongest at the beginning. Although you feel that nobody has ever been as deeply in love as you are, it's still a good idea to get to know your beloved slowly. Besides, if s/he knows everything about you, what will you email and IM about in the school year? And if it ends, how do you get back that video of you lip-synching Whitney Houston songs into a hairbrush when you were six?
Keep your real life going
We all know the type—the one who gets a new romance going and dumps everyone and everything else. In all relationships, most of all the seasonal kind, you should remember that the rest of your life won’t freeze in time. Your job isn’t going to give you "Love Leave," your mom won’t let you wait and wash all of the dishes at the end of the summer, and your friends won’t be psyched to take you back after you've ignored them for three straight months. Life goes on after the summer, so remember to keep your life up during it.
Realize that it might end
Sometimes the signs are obvious. When you're hearing “Wow, I’m gonna be so busy this school year,” or “Did I mention I’m doing a semester abroad in Siberia?” understand it's a red flag warning you that your hot summer romance will soon cool. Sometime the stresses of the school year just make it harder to keep in touch or stay as ga-ga for one another. Don’t despair, Sparklers, there are plenty of fish in the sea, right? And unless you live in the North Pole, there are plenty more steamy summers to come.
Have any more strategies to add or great summer romance stories to share? We want to know!
By: Rupinder_Gill
Topics: Life
Tags: relationships, dating, summer romance
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