The word love seems easy enough to say. It's a word after all, nothing scary. You probably say it to your friends and family on a regular basis, but nothing compares to the first time you say it to a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a surprising and honest moment that you will always remember and it will inevitably set the precedence for future relationships. But when's the right time to say it? Is there a right time?
First BF and I were watching South Park or some such unromantic fare, when he turned to me, took a deep dramatic breath, and said, "I love you." Now, we'd been dating for about a month at this point, and he was my first boyfriend, so in my naive mind I didn't expect the L Bomb to pop up for a while. But all of a sudden, here it was, staring at me, yearning for a reply. I mumbled that I loved him back, and it must have been convincing enough because he never questioned it. But the truth of the matter is, I didn't feel like I truly loved him until he let me vomit in his new jacket when I was experiencing a moment of motion sickness (still one of the nicest most selfless things anyone has ever done for me) and that was several months later.
I've thought a lot about this since the demise of the relationship and I can't help but wonder: Should I not have said anything until I felt the proverbial love myself? Or is it better to say that you love your S.O. even if what you feel for them is more in the 'care' neighborhood?
Love is a funny thing, and sometimes you might feel it when your paramour doesn't and vice versa; Cupid isn't exactly known for his impeccable timing. But how do you broach the subject, is there ever a good time to do it? And on a side note, why is there such a stigma about girls saying it first? Is it really that big a deal?
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